How do you think one can feel going back home after a long time living abroad?
Usually it’s a mix of contradictory feelings that change rapidly.
It’s like emotional merry-go-round.
Meeting your beloved ones, that you haven’t seen since a long, long time. Meeting your friends, with whom you have shared so many experiences in your life. People with whom you can always talk about averything; sharing the biggest secrets and dreams, sometimes joking, sometimes staying in silence. Simply enjoying this time being togeher.
Coming back to your places – your streets, cafes; breathing the atmosphere of your surrounding that you missed so much being abroad, that you were imagining so many times.
A chance to see the changes that happened when you were not there. How the city has developed, catching up to to know what happened in life of others.
And of course, tasting the food you love so much!
Cause you are different – you have changed during this time abroad. Your perspective is now different than before you left, your lifestyle has changed. You are not used cerating things anymore. Your attitude, your habits might vary from the one you had before.
Some of the places might be different. Or they look the same but atmosphere there is different.
Your cannot compare your experiences with experiences of your friends anymore. The paths you took in your lives diverge so much. Sometimes it’s even like speaking two languages. You feel like an outsider.
Do you recognize these feelings?
You might aks yourself right now: is there anything I can do to change it? To feel good in my place, with people who are important to me?
The answer is: Yes, you can.
Accept. Accept your emotions, accept that you have changed, and that others have done so, too. Keep your mind open and listen to them actively. There will be probably many people asking you aboutr experience abroad – share it. Go deeper, don’t say just: “Oh, it’s great! You should come and visit me one day!”
Tell them more, explain how you felt, what was different, how you have changed. And then ask them. Ask and listen – how they feel, what has happened in their lives. Stop comparing and saying, “Really? Where I live right now…”.
You are different now. They are different as well – even though you might think they are still the same. Accept it. Enjoy it. Talk about it – share with each other what you feel.
And remember, that this diversity, verious perspective is something that makes this world such a unique place to live in – full of uknown yet beautiful stories.
Have you ever felt something similar? Share it below.
- Returning Home After Living Abroad (expatlove.wordpress.com)